For the most part, this has worked well. Not long after I started blogging, I decided to get a domain name and host for my work. This was partly because cussandotherrants.blogspot.com was a reallllllly long URL. The transition was not without any pain. The blogspot URL was supposed to link visitors to the new URL, but after a few weeks someone hacked the blogspot URL because it was not quite programmed right. This sucked, but was not awful.

This afternoon, Blogger sent an email to the 0.5% of Blogger users who use FTP to upload their blog to a non-Blogger hosted site. They said that as of the end of March, we can’t do that any more. People with custom domains would need to transfer to their custom domain services. This means no more cussandotherrants.com. It also means that Google is my host. I understood their reasons, but I still fell into the fetal position and rocked back and forth.

Once I uncurled myself and got up off the metaphorical floor, I realized that maybe this was OK. I pondered the issue on my walk home from work. Sure, now is the worst timing to have to change CUSS to another platform, but it could use a good overhaul. There’s no way I could pull this off myself under even the best of circumstances (i.e. – not working full time and writing a thesis). However, people spend money on their hobbies, and so far, blogging has been a pretty cheap one. It’s time to invest in it.

So, anyone know a good web designer? I’m pretty excited to work with someone to take CUSS to a new level.

“Hey, I just want a little trim,” I told my stylist.

“Sure,” he said. Then he went outside to check out the traffic situation because there was a lot of honking. A few minutes later, he ran out to move his car before it got a ticket.

With all that disruption, he seemed to forget what I wanted because I am sitting here at my keyboard 90 minutes later with really short hair, depressed and wanting a paper bag to put over my head because not only is it shorter than I wanted, but it also is not that great. There are worse things in the world, but it’s really frustrating to think that I’m right back to where I was two months ago, except worse because he didn’t even cut it in a way that will grow back nicely.

I woke up late, but was still tired and remained groggy while eating breakfast. While reading the newspaper, I drifted back into sleep. In hindsight, I think this was when the aliens focused their suction beam on me, but they were thwarted in their morning efforts to kidnap me when my friend Sara called and woke me up. She popped over for what was supposed to be a way to kill 30 minutes before yoga class, but turned into a morning chat fest that ended when I walked her to her noon appointment.

At that point, I was supposed to hop on the subway and meet my friend for lunch downtown. Instead, the aliens seized the moment and sucked me into space. Next thing I knew, it was 3:30 and I checked my BlackBerry life-organizing machine for the first time that day. Boy, did the aliens fuck me up! Still, I felt horrible missing my lunch date, and called my friend.

When I begged for her forgiveness, I left out the part about the alien abduction and took full responsibility for my pathetic inaction. But I’m not sure which is scarier – the fact that I let an afternoon pass and have no idea what I was doing during that time, or my wish that aliens abducted me so I could have some explanation for my spaciness.

So here, Great Sages and Visionaries of the Blogosphere, is my pressing problem: my nightstand of nine years broke. Given that I purchased it from Ikea, it’s run as my bedside companion is very impressive. The drawers went a little off track a few years ago, but two weeks ago, the plastic snapped, and now the middle drawer rests in the bottom drawer.
This will not do. It is time to invest in a new nightstand.

I initially purchased a similar three drawer model from Ikea for $40. However, Husband and I managed to fuck up putting it together in rather inventive ways, and he told me never to buy anything that required construction from Ikea again. I went back to the internets and found two alternatives:

Option A:

Option B:

Now, there is nothing wrong with Option A. I could totally be fine, even happy, with Option A. It might even match a dresser that Husband has, which would be exciting. However, Option B is gorgeous. How can I not desire its sleek design and shiny wood? O, Oracle, how I covet it!

The problem is that Option B costs three times as much as Option A. Husband told me that it’s OK to spend some money on nicer furniture (nicer furniture that will of course match nothing else we own, another bonus in my trashy eyes), but I can’t help but feel guilty at spending so much money on a freakin’ nightstand, even if it is the best nightstand ever made.

What would you do?

*To be accurate, I’m wearing my gym clothes. But whatever. It would probably be disrespectful to consult the Oracle in smelly gym pants.

Whatever the case, I sat at my computer blushing like an idiot. (Or maybe I was flushed from fever? It was not a super high fever, just a smidge above 99, although for me that’s a bit higher than it is for others because my usual body temperature is 97.5 or something low like that. Husband says it is because I am a cold-hearted bitch. He is hilarious, no?) You know what’s funny? For a second, I was actually sad when he didn’t say that he had also had a crush on me. I had kinda believed, back in the day, that my crush was not unrequited. Like, this was over 20 years ago, but I still took it as a rejection.

On a related note, earlier in the week, I tried quizzing Husband about his junior high days to “get into the head of a 13 year old boy” so I could maybe fix up my young adult novel. He hesitantly submitted to my questions:

Me:”Did you go to junior high dances?”
Husband: “No.”
Me: “Why not? Weren’t you interested in them?”
H: “Yes, but no one would dance with me because I was a loser. Do I have to talk about this? I prefer not to relive those days.”
Me: (Kissed him on the head) “Well, this cold-hearted bitch would have wanted to dance with you.”
H: “Thanks.”

Yeah, junior high just sucks.

The workshop was extremely helpful, but also brutal. People were very generous with their praise for what worked, and constructive with why the parts that didn’t work failed. I may have improved my writing since “Always,” but damn, I have a long way to go.

Class left me both drained and with lots to ponder, but I joined a few friends for food and drink anyway. Indulging myself, I ordered chocolate pudding at the French restaurant we went to. It came with this luscious almond studded chocolate cookie thing (it was sort of like a chocolate waffle cone) and sugary whipped cream. I felt nauseated after I ate the cookie and a few bites of pudding, but ignored it.

When I finally got home, I still felt sick. My undiagnosed mysterious digestive ailment does this to me every once in a while, so I went to bed, figuring I’d feel better in the morning. Dear Reader, false hope. Oh, false hope.

Since I woke up, I have done nothing but puke and crap. It was so bad at one point that I even shit myself, ruining a pair of underwear that I really like. At other times, I lay on the bathroom floor, writhing with cramps. I worried about dehydration, but my second round of vomiting was the Gatorade I sipped to prevent that. I also have a low fever.

Sam Tanenhaus is scheduled to speak at school tonight about his book, The Death of Conservatism. I’m not sure I buy his theory about the two different types of conservatives – good ones who see that government can be positive and bad ones who, in the words of Grover Nordquist, want to shrink it to the size where it can be drowned in the bathtub – but I’ve been looking forward to the event all semester. It is pretty rare that my political interests and my literary interests collide. Now I can’t go. Puke. (Well, I could go and puke on the conservatives, but that is pretty rude, and I don’t want to stoop to their behavior. Plus there aren’t likely to be many conservatives in a New School audience.)

Hey la, hey la Wall Street’s back!
It’s been gone for such a long time
Hey la, hey la Wall Street’s back!
Now it’s back and things’ll be fine
Hey la, hey la Wall Street’s back!

Didn’t that feel good? No? Well, there’s good reason for that. As the 99.9% of the time right on NY Times columnist Bob Herbert wrote last week, Wall Street may be be on the rise again, but so is unemployment.

When I resigned from my job at a nonprofit organization in May, I joined the ranks of jobseekers. I knew that the economy was bad when I decided to leave, but there were other considerations that were stronger. It was a scary and tough decision, but I noticed that the various places that advertised jobs in my field offered lots of interesting opportunities.

I saw many positions that interested me, and I cast my net far and wide. I went to interviews. I took consulting jobs. I worked on my thesis for my master’s degree. It was difficult, but busy. Then mid-August hit. No one ever advertises on mid-August, so I only worried a little bit. Things did not pick up after Labor Day. I worried a lot. Classes started again, so I went to school and continued writing. I worried more.

I’m far luckier than most unemployed people – Husband works and we can live comfortably on his income. Still, I thought I’d contribute my anecdotal evidence that the overall economic situation is getting worse in some parts, not better.

Hey na, hey na – bring the job market back.

“Yes! There’s a color picture of you on the fr-”

“I know!!!! It’s horrible! I can’t believe how bad it is!”

He sighed. “I think you are too hard on yourself.”

“That’s true, but seriously, this is a bad picture. My friend Suebob said that I look as if I had a terrible accident involving my neck.” I cackled. “But now no one is going to want to hire me because they’ll think I have a disability that they’ll have to accommodate! I’m screwed.”

“Well, I’ll always love you.”

“Thanks, Dad.”

And that is the last I will say about this awful picture. It is almost ironic that I am obsessed with how I look in a picture attached to an article about how terrible it is that young girls have to struggle with body image.

*Big nod to Grace Paley, whose essay of the same title we read in lit class last year. My lit prof thought it didn’t work, but I adore anything Paley wrote. If she wrote a limerick on the back of a cocktail napkin, I’d find it brilliant.

The good news is that the new story links to the 1986 original. Yep, those were the days.

After limping to Cosi for internet access, I called my ob/gyn to schedule an appointment for September. (I had to google her phone number.) When I saw her last year, I really liked her. I found her after reading an article she wrote for Glamour magazine about the dangers of Brazilian waxing. It was meant to be.

“Are you an existing patient of Dr. O’Connell’s?” the receptionist asked me.

“Yes,” I replied.

“Oh, well next week is her last week before she leaves here forever.”

“WHAT?!?! May I ask where she is going?” I prayed quickly that I could just follow her to her next doctoring gig.

“Massachusetts.”

It took everything I had in me not to scream motherfucker. When I first moved to New York, I retained my gyn in the suburbs of Chicago and made my yearly appointments when I was in town to visit my family. I loved that doctor. Then she moved to Champagne-Urbana, which is about four hours from Chicago, so I sucked it up and found a doc here. I hated her.

My co-worker then referred me to her doctor, who I adored. After two or three years, she completely fell off the planet. (Dr. Pollitz, if you are out there, I miss your care!) I saw my friend Sara’s doctor. Sara swore by him, telling me that he always took lots of time to talk to her and answer her questions, but he was super late to my appointment and rushed me through a history while I was sitting on the exam table in a paper gown. I was not impressed.

A few months after that disappointment, I visited my friend Dr. P in Florida, where was doing a fellowship. Dr. P had a subscription to Glamour (good bathroom reading?), and that’s when I found the article by Dr. O’Connell, whose byline noted that she worked at Columbia Medical Center in NYC. I decided that this was my future doctor. I waited another few months for my yearly cooter exam time to arrive, and had a very nice appointment with her. Which of course is inevitably why she is leaving.

Now I have painful toes and no snatch examiner to boot. Motherfucker.